Frequently Asked Questions

Somatic Sex Coaching draws on my training and experience as a Sexological Bodyworker, Somatic Sex Educator and Interactive Erotic Educator.  It is a unique and personalised offering that supports people to gain greater somatic awareness as well as deep authentic embodiment and the skills needed to experience and explore meaningful sex and pleasure. Through the exploration of touch, movement, sound, breath and awareness we move beyond the mind and begin to access your sexual self in an empowered and life affirming way. From this place you will begin to feel more, know more and experience more sensation, connection with yourself and others. Somatic Sex Coaching may or may not involve touch and is intended as a space in which you are supported to learn and experiment.

Modalities such as breath work, skills in touch, genital and anal exploration, education in arousal anatomy, massage techniques, self-pleasure coaching, scar tissue remediation and pleasure mapping may be offered as ways of deepening connection and facilitating learning.

In addition, I also weave the Wheel of Consent communication and embodiment skills throughout all my offerings.   I am trained by the School of Consent – www.schoolofconsent.org and offer this work individually and as workshops.

As a Somatic Sex Coach, I offer touch as part of session work and learning together.  This may be one-way or two-way touch depending on your learning intentions and may be decided on the day through discussion at the start of our session.

Somatic Experiencing® is a pioneering approach to healing trauma that focuses on re-establishing a felt sense of safety, choice and presence through working with incomplete nervous system responses to overwhelming events. Developed by Dr. Peter Levine, SE utilises awareness of sensations, gestures, movement and other embodiment tools to renegotiate the impact of trauma and support people to restore their sense of aliveness, relaxation and vibrancy.  

Many people seeking my support have accessed talk therapy and find themselves still stuck, particularly when it comes to sex and intimacy.  I am a trained Somatic Experience Practitioner and weave these tools with embodiment counselling techniques when useful.  I have a special interest in supporting those who have experienced sexual trauma and boundary violation, reclaim pleasure and meaningful intimacy with others. 

For more information on Somatic Experiencing®, you can visit the Somatic Experiencing International website.

Embodiment and somatic essentially mean the same thing.  Put simply they mean being present to our body.  This includes things like sensation, sounds, movements and impulses. Typically, we often derive information or learn using our minds.  Learning somatically shifts awareness into the realms of our body.  Being more embodied opens us to a wealth of information, sensation and ultimately pleasure.

Erotic energy is big picture with sexual exploration and pleasure being one part or pathway to access and cultivate it.  Eroticism includes our sense of vibrancy, creativity and aliveness.   It is our juiciness and feeds our sexual charge.  It is our life force and is felt deeply through sensation and connection to our whole body.  Eroticism does not rely on connection or engagement with another, nor is it only about orgasm.  It is ours to own, explore and utilise as it resonates into all that we are and do.

People seek my support for many reasons and purposes. Some come to work with specific things of concern including things like premature ejaculation, inability to orgasm, lose of libido or challenges with body changes and erection.   Others feel ok in their sexual self and exploration but are looking for more.   People might be in long term relationships, or with new lovers. They may be single and seek to deeply love and know themselves. They may have experienced sexual trauma or things in life that have robbed them of their innate capacity to feel and be intimate. They may be ecstatically happy and purely desire more pleasure. They may not know exactly where they want to go but are certain of where they no longer want to be.

I welcome all genders, sexual orientations, abilities and relating styles. I work with people over 18 who come with an open mind and heart and have a genuine desire to learn, grow and discover.   

Sessions are framed around your learning intentions and start by meeting you wherever you are at. Our work together is somatically focused so talking is balanced with embodiment practices and touch if useful.  Collaboratively we identify your intentions and practices that will support you in working towards what you would like to achieve or experience.  Together we negotiate agreements that honour safety and choice whilst supporting you to explore your edges in a resilient and useful way.  Sessions are usually 60 to 90 minutes and practice opportunities are identified for you to continue working at home.

Somatic Experiencing techniques might be woven into any of our sessions depending what shows up and is useful at the time.  However, if we are doing a SE focused session, we would be exploring things like:

• How to connect to, settle and feel present in your body.
• Noticing things like sensations and gestures and following these with curiosity to see what wants to happen next.
• Finding a sense of resource through using imagination, thoughts, emotions and how these then translate to the body.
• Exploring a traumatic experience gently and slowing so that a survival response (what you wanted to do but didn’t or couldn’t) is completed and current day challenges and experiences can be met with presence and choice.

Sessions are held in a beautiful rural setting in my work studio at home. We are surrounded by bushland and privacy. I am about a 45-minute drive from the centre of Brisbane and the closest train is the Ferny Grove Train Station. 

 Sessions are available Tuesdays, Wednesdays and Fridays during business hours.

To book a session you can send me an email or text with your contact details, and I will give you a call to talk further. Alternatively, you are welcome to call me directly. My preference is for us to have a brief chat on the phone or via email before an appointment is made.