So….what actually is Sexological Bodywork and Sex Coaching?
This is one of the most common questions I get asked when people are considering working with me.
I love it because it’s a great question and let’s face it….it can sound like a pretty wacky thing to do!
It can also feel a bit scary and uncertain particularly in a world where conversations and experiences around sex are often
shroud in shame, taboo and trauma.
I often say to people, that learning to be a great lover and embrace our sexual confidence is much like learning to ride a
bike.
Remember back. Most us learn the skill of bike riding in childhood.
At first, we are pretty wobbly and often afraid of crashing.
I can remember many a scrapped knee and crashing full speed into the concrete barbeque I was so determined to avoid!
Do you have those memories too??
We might have had a parent or older sibling who holds the wheels steady and guides us as we learn.
The teach us how to press the peddles, keep our balance and cheer us on when we start to get it on our own.
Our confidence builds as we practice over and over again.
To be a successful bike rider, we need to feel our feet on the pedals, notice our body and flow of motion. We need to
breath, focus and intend.
We need to practice over and over, without pressure to get it right.
Once we learn the skills of bike riding, it lives in our body memory forever.
We can get on a bike now in adulthood, without riding for years, and be able to ride again. No coaching required. We
might start off a bit wobbly at first but before we know it, we are riding like the wind again.
Learning to be a great lover is all about connecting with and feeling our bodies.It is about approaching sex with intention
and not agenda and practicing new skills and awareness with repetition over time.
This is what sessions and working with me is all about.
Letting go of performance.
Connecting with sensation in the body.
Learning the skills of touch, using breath, sound, movement and awareness.
Overcoming fear and shame in resilient way.
And having a safe, non-judgemental place to practice, explore and learn.
The good news is also that it doesn’t take long at all to start seeing significant change.
That is what I love so much about working with the body.
My clients walk away with not only the skills to be incredible lovers, but also a
tool kit to live a life full of abundant joyful pleasure.
They are turned on and tuned into life forever more.
Are you ready to start intentionally learning how to ride your own wonderful
bike? I wish for everyone to
ride like the wind.How wonderful would that be?
