What happens when we stop seeing our challenges around sex as a problem and open to the possibility that they are a gift?
Many people who seek my support come believing there is something wrong with them.
They see their challenges with sex, as a problem that needs to be fixed.
For men it is often premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction or anxiety that gets them to my door.
For women it is low libido, inability to orgasm and a poor relationship with their body.
Whatever it is, they come believing they are dysfunctional and broken.
It is heart breaking as they have often sought a myriad of support from doctors, psychologists and physios before arriving here with me.
They feel embarrassed, ashamed and long to move forward.
In navigating this journey the first next step is often to reframe the belief that something is broken and wrong.
We live in a world that is constantly pathologizing and blaming.
We look for quick fixes and fast end results.
When we pause and examine how we actually see or understand our struggles, we find a pivot point that can change everything.
Here is how I see it.
We firstly need to acknowledged that yes, we are having an experience of sex that we don’t want to have.
Things are not working like we believe they should and we are feeling pretty bad about it.
We need to acknowledge that also without these struggles we most likely would not have had the motivation to seek any support.
When we are comfy, we don’t grow.
So with some gratitude for what got us to here, we can gently begin to explore the possibility that this problem is actually a gift.
An initiator to discovery and claiming our birth rite to luscious, juicy wonderful sex.
When we hold our problems as invitations, the whole landscape changes and an exciting adventure emerges.
I see it over and over again. People seeking support to fix something they believe is broken, begin there and discover confidence, orgasmic pleasure, deep love and appreciation for the their bodies.
They become masterful lovers and present to the abundant joy or living an erotically empowered life.
Want to experience this for yourself?
