“In order to grow, we need to find our Yes.
Yes, to the challenge.
Yes, to the discomfort.
Yes, to the uncertainty.
Great liberation comes in saying Yes to the things that scare us.”
I wrote this 12 months ago as I took a big leap.
A leap that I had avoided and distracted myself from doing for YEARS!
A leap that required me to let go of the security and certainty of a job and community I loved.
A leap that demanded I get super uncomfortable…and stay there for a while.
A leap that asked me to trust and honour my deepest desires and what I truly wanted.
I left my job.
Pursued my passion and purpose.
Became 100% reliant on my businesses to support me and my family.
And said a big fat YES! to not knowing exactly what was to come!
People often assume that I find these edgy places easy.
That because I teach and support people to around sex, pleasure, intimacy and eroticism, I don’t have the same challenges that they do.
That because I can confidently talk about topics that are often challenging, shameful or taboo, that I some how have a super power that allows me to cruise on through all of these spaces with grace, ease and certainty.
Ha!
I wish that were true!
No, I am actually as human as everyone else and get stuck, confused and immobilised.
I feel afraid and retreat.
I fall into comfy places and habit and then wonder why five years later I am having the same conversations and feeling even more frustrated!
Thing is though, each time I spiral around these patterns that keep me stuck, I get a new layer of learning and I know what liberation from the shitty things that no longer serve me, feels like.
In my body.
In my thoughts.
In my emotions.
In my life.
It makes the challenge and discomfort so very welcome.
I have learnt how to stay on my edges with resilience.
To not rush into fixing or changing but rather to pay attention, pause and notice.
To resource myself with tools, people and community that lovingly challenge me and foster my growth.
Because of these things, this week I celebrate not the only the vision and dream I dared to step into. But also, it coming to fruition.
Creating the life, we deeply desire starts firstly with knowing what we want and then being willing to get uncomfortable enough to claim it.
One small step at a time.
In saying that first small yes, we begin to step beyond limitations, habits and the familiar and start to see what is possible.
We open ourselves to growth and allow space for new experiences to emerge.
Our yes to ourselves is a yes to all those we love and who love us.
It is how I choose to live my life.
One small yes at a time.
What are you willing to say yes to today?
Desire and the creative liberation of Yes!
