We are so blessed here is Australia, to have a huge array of incredible Sex Coaches and other wonderful practitioners working in the area of Conscious Sexuality. I took some time to ask some of my most favourite colleagues the following question.
“What is the most potent piece of advice you would like to give people who want to have better sex?”
Here is what they said:
“Slow down, breathe and listen to what your body is telling you. Learning how to breathe fully and use my pelvic floor muscles was a real game changer for me in regards to improving my sex life; giving me access to multiple orgasms, squirting and much higher states of arousal.”
Lorraine Pentelow – Somatic Sex Coach and Sexological Bodyworker
“Allow yourself to become completely immersed in the act of sex. Most people struggle with a busy mind but there is absolutely no way of having mind-blowingly orgasmic sex if you’re making a to-do list in your head at the same time. Stay focused on your breath and all the sensations and pleasure in your body for an intensified, ecstatic experience.”
Helena Nista – Sexpert and Tantra Teacher
“Slow down. Slow down. Slow down. Pleasure is so much more than arousal. Notice when habits come in and by slowing down, find the spaces in between those habits and take some time to breathe there. Engage all of your senses in these moments of slowness. Feel for subtlety and be open to the unexpected.”
Spiral Orbit – spiralsexeducation@gmail.com
“Sexual power is the juicy, magnetising, life force of sensation and feeling that animates and deepens our sense of embodiment. It can be a powerful force of creativity and manifestation and a component for a healthy and fulfilling human experience. Yet sexual power on its own can be misused and abused. It can penetrate without permission and manipulate for ego and power over another’s sovereignty. Fear of experiencing the shadow side of sexual power leads to its control and suppression within and without, which ultimately takes us further away from our empowerment altogether. So, what is missing from this recipe for Sexual Empowerment…? Consciousness. Yet consciousness is not control. Sexual power is not some untamed beast only workable under the control of its master, quite the opposite. Consciousness is awareness, knowledge, understanding, opening, expanding, being in a constant state of presence. Consciousness working alongside and in relationship with sexual power can create an experience of sexual empowerment, leading to more choices, and more opportunities for fulfillment.”
Vanessa Vance – Explorer of Consciousness, Sex and Spirit
“Slow down. Try picking times during your play, to consciously halve the speed of whatever you are doing, then halve it again.
It can increase your focus, heighten your senses and build intimacy by increasing awareness of your partner’s responses.”
Rebecca Rose – Somatic Sex Educator
And just to add my two cents worth!
“Listen deeply to the whispers and longings within you. Have the courage to honour and explore these edges. They are your gateways – opportunities; invitations – and by meeting them you will begin to unravel the most wondrous parts of yourself. Those parts that are often deemed shameful and unacceptable; the shadows or places you may fear to go. Meet your limiting beliefs and trust your body to guide you wherever it most desires to go. It is your greatest teacher and ally.”
Susan Stark – Somatic Sex Coach and Counsellor
I encourage to be curious, explore and open yourself to possibility. Connect with those that resonate with you and your journey. And most of all embrace the ride, wherever it takes you.
