One of the most prolific and profoundly disturbing problems of our times, is the sexual
violation of others boundaries, trust and bodies.
Sadly, many people take what they want from another human beings without consent or
concern.
Our world fosters an entitled belief system and objectification of others, for our own pleasure.
Behind closed doors.
Trust is broken.
Attachments abused.
Bodies used.
No other issue ignites my anger and momentum quite like this one.
Day in, day out, I talk with people seeking to heal their relationship with their bodies, sex and
their beloved partners.
Struggling to find ways to move beyond the triggers, shame and self-loathing.
They feel alone and despairing.
They often seek my support after years of therapy and searching for practical tools to
reclaim what was wrongly taken.
Our sexuality is the most intimate and private part of ourselves.
Sexual violation of another is not only the betrayal of trust but also the crossing of
boundaries that significantly impacts the view and experience of survivors towards
their bodies, pleasure and intimacy.
Many feel broken and struggle to see themselves as separate to what was done to them.
I have spent hours this past two weeks on calls to incredible human beings who live this
experience every day of their lives.
They are some of the most inspiring and courageous people I have the honour to walk
alongside.
They teach me lessons of tenacity.
Of quiet determination and resilience.
They invite me to dig deeper and show up more.
I often muse, how an issue so enormous and so profoundly impactful can continually slip
under our radar of care.
I take my hat off to every worker, therapist, coach and practitioner who constantly works at
the front line of this pandemic.
This fortnight, I struggle to rest.
These issue weigh heavy and more needs to be done.
My commitment is to keep going when it feels impossible and overwhelmingly huge.
To agitate, demand and keep knocking on influential doors.
To invest my time and create more and more pathways to sexual healing and reclaiming for
those who have been harmed.
For survivors and those who walk alongside them.
Why?
Because pleasure is a part of our humanness and the aliveness that comes from a loving
connection to our bodies, sexuality and those we love, is the essence of life.
We all have a right to that.
