Shame and fear are the two biggest obstacles confronting people around sex,
intimacy and pleasure.
They are invisible and sneaky.
They often come disguised as… I don’t have enough time. Sex is not important.
Yeah, I will get to that later.
They might come packaged with struggling relationships, trauma and work stress.
They keep us stuck and making excuses.
We struggle to navigate past them and slowly they choose for us.
We find ourselves doing the same things that no longer serve us well.
We escape through fantasy, porn and settle.
Every now and then, they rear their heads and we get cranky.
Is this a familiar cycle for you?
It was for me.
It stopped and silenced me for years. I stuffed down my desires and dreams and
kept everyone else comfy.
I distracted myself with work, children and everyday life.
I shut off the part that I felt would be judged by others and had no place to safely be
expressed.
Looking back now I feel such sadness for that version of myself.
Shame and fear kept me stuck.
With gentleness and courage, I found my way to supports and resources that
allowed me to shift and reclaim a space for myself.
A client recently said to me that her pivot point was being brutally honest, owning
her frustration and unhappiness and… choosing herself. One small step at a time
she is reclaiming what is truly hers.
Her body. Her pleasure. Her power. Her choice.
It is a gift to everyone who knows and loves her.
Yes, she is still caring and supporting others in her life.
But from a profoundly different place.
She is happy, vibrant and most of all shifting from being alive to fully living.
What do you need to stop fear and shame from choosing for you?
