Do you orient to abundance or scarcity in your life?
When offered something of value do you recoil with suspicious or welcome it in?
Do you question and shut off or open to the gift?
Take minute and think about it.
How skilled are you at receiving the gifts that are offered to you in your life?
Recently I was set the challenge of offering a complete stranger $20.
Yep, approaching someone I didn’t know on the street and giving them money.
No strings attached, just an offering of value to someone I didn’t know.
A bit crazy I know, but an opportunity to practice receiving a no with graciousness
and resilience.
A practice for the unsuspecting stranger to welcome in a gift with no strings
attached.
I felt super nervous going up to people and was certainly out of my comfort zone!
Interesting in itself.
I happily facilitate events for people to explore all sorts of sex focused learning and
exploration but this was next level!
Ah, we all have our learning edges.
Despite the richness of learning I received in meeting my edge and believe it not
receiving a mountain of no’s, something else became very clear.
It was very evident how many people make themselves unavailable to the
abundance right front of their eyes.
Believe it or not, despite my best efforts I couldn’t give away my $20.
I tried a range of approaches but ended up after half an hour of trying, with the
money still in my hand.
People responded with everything from cautiousness and questioning to actually
feeling offended.
Some suggested I give it to someone who really needed it.
Others asked me if it was an experiment.
One person took sincere offence reading so much more into my offering than what
was really there.
All in all, each person I approached was unable to accept the abundance put before
them.
I see this same pattern in my work with people around intimacy and sex.
So often the abundance of pleasure is right in front of them, yet they are either
unable to actually recognise it or not able to be present and receive it.
There is skill in slowing down, noticing and valuing ourselves enough to actually
receive.
How do you approach the gifts of pleasure available to you in any moment? Do you
welcome them in with gratitude and feel worthy? Or do you close off with fear and
excuses?
