I don’t want to make my bed today. I don’t want to flatten the sheets out. And tuck in the blankets just right. I don’t want to arrange the pillows at the head board. Or plump the cushions and neatly arrange the throw. I don’t want to clean the bedside of its snotty waste land… Read more: What happens when we allow our grief?

My greatest erotic teacher has been death, grief and suffering. Through heartbreak and loss, I have found profound gateways to creative energy, deep longing and the bittersweet fusion of pleasure and pain. These elements weave the foundational fabric of my erotic expression and fuel it flames.

Julie was an accomplished people pleaser. She had spent much of her life appeasing others at home, work and in sex. She was well practiced in tolerating and going along and through some work together was beginning to realise, how much she was trapped in a cycle of over giving. Read how Julie learnt how to change these patterns and liberate herself sexually and in her life.