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Want mind blowing sex…. my number one tip of where to begin

by Susan Stark | Feb 22, 2023 | Somatic Sex & Intimacy

Many people, want mind blowing sex.
They want sex that opens and expands their hearts and pleasure, beyond what they already know is possible.
They want aliveness and vibrancy that ripples and resonates in their bodies for days, months, years even.
They want deep passion, adventure and wonder-full discovery.
They want to feel lovingly embraced, connected and explored by those they love.
I get it.
I want that too!
Every last bit.
And more.
Why not?
Why shouldn’t we have that?
Sexual pleasure is one of the most amazing gifts of being human.
Our bodies are made for it.
Both alone and with others.
Problem is.…we are going about it in the wrong way.

When it comes to sex…less is so often more

by Susan Stark | Dec 19, 2022 | Somatic Sex & Intimacy

Simplicity is foundational to sensual pleasure and discovery.

We often believe we need to add more, learn more and be more in our search for better sex.

But the truth is… Less is often far more.
I learnt this the hard way.

How to have more pleasure

by Susan Stark | Dec 16, 2022 | Somatic Sex & Intimacy

Many of our struggles with things like sex and relationships stem from a belief and conditioning that there is right way to experience and define them.

We get unconsciously attached to things like sexual scripts and relationship escalators, habituated to believe that these are the only pathways to a life time of perpetual pleasure, intimacy and connection.

Reclaiming Desire…. when attraction wanes

by Susan Stark | Nov 30, 2022 | Somatic Sex & Intimacy

One of the most challenging and common things I notice in my own relating and that of the people I work with, is how desire changes and often dissipates over time.
Most people in long-term relationships experience staleness and disconnect at some point in time.
It is almost inevitable and can make or break us.

Let me tell you how I have found my way back to the depths of desire in my 30 year relationship.

Three tips to make self pleasure great!

by Susan Stark | Aug 24, 2022 | Somatic Sex & Intimacy

May is Masturbation Month, believe it or not, and for many people across the globe, a time to invest in cultivating their sexual skills and erotic awareness through self-pleasure. Over the month of May I have been running my annual 31-day self-pleasure challenge with...

Reclaiming Sex – Where to begin

by Susan Stark | Apr 28, 2022 | Somatic Sex & Intimacy, Uncategorized

Our sexuality is an essential part of our wellbeing, creativity and vitality.I believe it is the most beautiful and wonder-full part of our humanness.Individually and together.Sadly however, for many this aliveness is not available to the fullness of its potential due...

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